So now, actually behavior, the first thing is susila, very well behaved, gentle. Sila means behavior, and su means very good. Susilo mita-bhuk. This can be attained only when one practices eating whatever is absolutely necessary, not eating more. This is also enjoined by Rupa Gosvami: atyaharah prayasas ca prajalpo niyamagrahah [NoI 2]. Atyahara, eating more than necessary, is condemned everywhere. Spiritual life means reducing eating, sleeping, mating, and defending. That is spiritual life. Nidrahara-viharakadi-vijitau **. The Rupa Gosvami and other six Gosvamis, they conquered over these things, nidra-ahara. So a brahmacari should not eat anything except prasadam, that also when he is called by the spiritual master, "You can come and eat." This we have discussed.

So that is the secret of success, sraddadhana, to accept the words of guru very, very faithfully. Sraddha. This is brahmacari's... And jitendriya, self-controlled. That is the brahmacari. He is not agitated by the senses. The whole practice is to control the senses. That is Vedic civilization. I have several times explained that senses cannot be let loose. Senses must be controlled. That is called swami or gosvami. Swami does not mean that "I am the swami, husband of my wife, and I can use her to my best capacity." No. Swami means the master of the senses. That is called swami or gosvami. Go means senses, and svami... Everyone in this material world is controlled by the senses. That is material world. We cannot control our senses. The tongue is dry and dictating, "Take a cigarette, take a cigarette," and immediately I begin to smoke. That means I am dictated by the tongue. Then tongue, then belly. The belly is filled up, and still, there is some nice food stuff"All right, let me eat." Control, cannot control. And then genital. That, we know very well, we cannot control. This straight line: tongue, belly, and the genitals. Therefore one should control the tongue first. That is spiritual life, beginning, controlling the tongue. Sevonmukhe hi jihvadau [Brs. 1.2.234]. The controlling of the senses begins from the tongue. If you allow the tongue to eat anything in the restaurant or anywhere, then you cannot become the jitendriya. And if you can control the tongue"My dear tongue, I shall not give you any food which is not offered to Krsna, krsna prasadam"then the tongue is controlled. And krsna-prasadam means patram puspam phalam toyam yo me bhaktya prayacchati [Bg. 9.26]. If you want to offer Krsna something, we must know what Krsna wants to eat. Just like if you call a friend, you ask him, "My dear friend, what do you like to eat?" Then it is etiquette. And that is going on. Similarly, you have invited Krsna here. He has come. Don't think He has not come. He is here, saksad vrajendra-nandana-hari. The atheist may say, "Oh, these rascals are worshiping a stone," but that is not the fact. We are not spending so much energy and money for installing a stone. Stone is already there. Therefore it is forbidden, arcye sila-dhir gurusu nara-matih. If you think the Deity as sila, means stone, and gurusu nara-matih, if you think guru as ordinary human being, vaisnave jati-buddhi, and if you think a Vaisnava, "He is American Vaisnava. He is Indian Vaisnava," jati-buddhi narakiyou become naraki immediately. These are the descriptions.

This is life. Not that extravagant life is life. That is the present position of India, that we have lost our own culture. Brahmacari, grhastha, vanaprastha, sannyasithis is compulsory. Every child should be trained up as brahmacari. Then, when he is completely trained up, if he still likes to get into married life or householder life, which is a concession for sex life... It is not required. According to Vedic civilization it is not required. You'll find, therefore, many naistika-brahmacaris. Naistika means never any connection with woman. That is called naistika-brahmacari. And upakurvana-brahmacaris. Upakurvana-brahmacari means he is married, but not for enjoying. He is married and to beget nice children under the order of his spiritual master. He is also brahmacari. If a grhastha abides by the order of a guru, he is also brahmacari. So here it is said jitendriya. Susilah mita-bhug daksah sraddadhano jitendriyah. Senses should not be used extravagantly. The modern civilization is that if you can use your senses more and more, then you are civilized. Then you are enjoyer. So Vedic civilization is different. Their aim is different. The whole scheme is controlling the senses, especially sex, because if we become too much addicted to sex life, then our life is spoiled. This is this.

So according to Vedic civilization there is very, very strict stricture to mix with women. And in our childhood, we have seen in Calcutta that those who are aristocratic family, there are two section of the house, male section and female section. During daytime even the husband cannot meet wife. That is their restriction, even the husband. There was no chance because the women were in different house and men in a different house. So so many restriction. So here it is said, yavad-artham vyavaharet strisu... (end)