tatharibhir na vyathate silimukhaih
sete írditango hrdayena duyata
svanam yatha vakra-dhiyam duruktibhir
diva-nisam tapyati marma-taditah
tatha—so; aribhih—enemy; na—not; vyathate—is hurt; silimukhaih—by the arrows; sete—rests; ardita—aggrieved; angah—a part; hrdayena—by the heart; duyata—grieving; svanam—of relatives; yatha—as; vakra-dhiyam—deceitful; duruktibhih—by harsh words; diva-nisam—day and night; tapyati—suffers; marma-taditah—one whose feelings are hurt.
Lord Siva continued: If one is hurt by the arrows of an enemy, one is not as aggrieved as when cut by the unkind words of a relative, for such grief continues to rend oneís heart day and night.
Sati might have concluded that she would take the risk of going to her fatherís house, and even if her father spoke unkindly against her she would be tolerant, as a son sometimes tolerates the reproaches of his parents. But Lord Siva reminded her that she would not be able to tolerate such unkind words because natural psychology dictates that although one can suffer harm from an enemy and not mind so much because pain inflicted by an enemy is natural, when one is hurt by the strong words of a relative, one suffers the effects continually, day and night, and sometimes the injury becomes so intolerable that one commits suicide.
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