ya udyatam anadrtya
kinasam abhiyacate
ksiyate tad-yasah sphitam
manas cavajnaya hatah
yahwho; udyataman offering; anadrtyarejecting; kinasamfrom a miser; abhiyacatebegs; ksiyateis lost; tathis; yasahreputation; sphitamwidespread; manahhonor; caand; avajnayaby neglectful behavior; hatahdestroyed.
One who rejects an offering that comes of its own accord but later begs a boon from a miser thus loses his widespread reputation, and his pride is humbled by the neglectful behavior of others.
The general procedure of Vedic marriage is that a father offers his daughter to a suitable boy. That is a very respectable marriage. A boy should not go to the girls father and ask for the hand of his daughter in marriage. That is considered to be humbling ones respectable position. Svayambhuva Manu wanted to convince Kardama Muni, since he knew that the sage wanted to marry a suitable girl: I am offering just such a suitable wife. Do not reject the offer, or else, because you are in need of a wife, you will have to ask for such a wife from someone else, who may not behave with you so well. In that case your position will be humbled.
Another feature of this incident is that Svayambhuva Manu was the emperor, but he went to offer his qualified daughter to a poor brahmana. Kardama Muni had no worldly possessionshe was a hermit living in the forestbut he was advanced in culture. Therefore, in offering ones daughter to a person, the culture and quality are counted as prominent, not wealth or any other material consideration.

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