So in the beginning of life to train the children as brahmacaris is essential. The fact is that one may not be attached to sex life. Sex life only allowed to beget children. That's all.

So this is human civilization. Grhastha. That also allowed only for a few years. Not few years. Formerly, as we have calculated that people used to live for hundred years, so twenty-four years, twenty-five years, brahmacari; twenty-five years, grhastha; twenty-five years, vanaprastha; and last twenty-five years, sannyasa. Ultimately sannyasi, training. So in these four asramas, brahmacari, grhastha, vanaprastha and sannyasa, in three asramas, there is no sex life. Brahmacari, vanaprastha and sannyasa. Only grhastha allowed sex life. That is also restricted only for begetting children. So in the Vedic civilization sex life is actually denied. Only in grhastha life with the restriction. Not that whenever I like. No. That is bondage. So long we'll be attached to sex life, then we'll have to accept this material body. Yan maithunadi-grhamedhi-sukham hi tuccham kanduyanena karayor iva duhkha-duhkham [SB 7.9.45]. We should remember this. But what will be the effect unless we are trained up? People are not educated what is the value of life, how life should be conducted, what is the aim of life. But everything can be done. It is no difficulty. Just like a man practicing to lift... I think everyone, you know, if he takes on his back one small calf, it grows, when the calf becomes a very big bull one can lift. This is practice. But all of a sudden, if you want to lift one big bull on your shoulders, that is not possible. But if you practice to take the little calf from the very beginning, it grows and your strength grows. It grows... This is gradual process. So in the human form of life, the whole training is... That is Vedic civilization, how to avoid sex life. That is liberation. If I have got desire for sex life, some way or other, then I will have to take birth again in this material world to satisfy.

So the training should be how to give up this idea, and it is possible. If training is there, then it is possible. That is the instruction of Prahlada Maharaja: kaumara acaret prajno dharman bhagavatan iha [SB 7.6.1]. From the very beginning, children should be trained up in this line. That is the responsibility actually, father's, mother's affection. But the father-mother do not know what is the aim of life. Neither they are trained up. How they can train up their children? But here is the prescription how to train up. So in this age, although it is a very difficult task, at least if we teach our children to chant Hare Krsna maha-mantra, then everything is possible. That is the facility of this age. He'll be gradually trained up to the highest perfection. Caitanya Mahaprabhu's benediction is there: yaha haite sarva siddhi haibe tomara. Simply by chanting Hare Krsna mantra, you'll get all perfection of life. So either... Narottama dasa Thakura sings, grhe va vanete thake, "ha gauranga" bole dake. So don't be afraid that because we are in this age we cannot be trained up, it is very difficult. But we can very easily chant Hare Krsna maha-mantra. That is a special concession of this age. Just like these children were dancing and chanting. And it is the duty of the parents to train the children in such a way they get liberty in this very life. Father, mother, they should think of their innocent children, that "This boy, this child has come to us. Now let us train him in such a way that he will get liberty, no more birth and death." This is real responsibility of father and mother. Pita na sa syaj janani na sa syat, guru... Everyone's duty should be how to give relief to the living entities from these clutches of birth and death. That is ideal civilization.

So Prahlada Maharaja says if you don't train up in the beginning, then ko grhesu puman saktam atmanam ajitendriyah. Atmanam ajitendriyah, the whole training is to control the senses, and the most powerful sense is the tongue. Sense control begins from the tongue. Bhaktivinoda Thakura has given you the song: tar madhye jihva ati lobhamoy sudurmati. Bhaktivinoda Thakura gives a description that Sarira avidya-jala jodendriya tahe kal. This body is the encagement. We are in the prison of this material world. How we are imprisoned? We have been given a material body. This is imprisonment. Sarira avidya-jal. And we are very happy to keep this body very comfortably without knowing the aim of life. That is avidya-jal, a network of ignorance. Sarira avidya-jal, and the senses are our greatest enemies. Unless we control the senses, we are put into this avidya-jal, network of... And out of all the senses, Bhaktivinoda Thakura says tar madhye jihva-jihva means tongue-jihva ati, lobhamoy sudurmati. It is very greedy. Jihva, to control the tongue. To control the senses means begin with the controlling the tongue. That is also very difficult job. So therefore to control the tongue, best thing is to take krsna prasadam. First of all, offer to Krsna and then take. Tara madhye jihva ati, lobhamoy sudurmati ta'ke jeta kothina somsare. Krsna boda-doyamoy kori bare jihva joy. At least if we take it as a vow that "I shall not eat anything which is not offered to Krsna," that will help us. Krsna boda-doyamoy, kori bare jihva joy svaprasad anna dila bhai.

So with the tongue begins spiritual life. If we restrict our tongue not to talk uselessly, simply talk of Krsna, or chant Hare Krsna, read Krsna books, chant Hare Krsna, and when you are hungry, take Krsna prasadam, then it will be possible. You can control the tongue. And if you can control the tongue, then you can control other senses very easily. Therefore Bhaktivinoda Thakura has given a very easy formula, tar madhye jihva ati, lobhamoy sudurmati ta'ke jeta kothina somsare krsna boda-doyamoy, kori, Krsna is so kind that from Vaikuntha He has come here in this remote village of America. He's so kind, just to accept your service. Don't think that "Here is a doll." No. Krsna. Krsna, on the request of devotee, He has come. You should always remember this, that "Here is Krsna, personally present." Just like Caitanya Mahaprabhu... It requires only advanced sense. When He saw Jagannatha at Puri temple, He immediately fainted, "Here is My Lord." So it is only advanced understanding, but preliminary understanding is that "Here is Krsna." Don't think that it is a doll. Even if you think it is doll, but Krsna has come to you in the form of doll so that you can see. Otherwise, Krsna is always present everywhere. We cannot see. Or you can handle. Krsna is everything. So Krsna is so kind that He has come here to be seen by you, to be touched by you, to be dressed by you, to be decorated by you, to accept whatever you nicely offer with bhakti. Krsna is not hungry or Krsna has no food at His Vaikuntha? No. He has got. He is supplying everyone food. So He has got everything. We should always remember that He has kindly come for our benefit, so let us be always cautious and very respectful and offering the nicest prasadam prepared with great attention. In this way, if we practice, then our life becomes very successful. Otherwise, we shall be very much attached. Because we are ajitendriya, we cannot control our senses. Very difficult. But if you take Krsna prasadam, although apparently we are greedy, but on account of taking Krsna prasadam, it is neutralized. Our greediness, by taking Krsna prasadam, it is neutralized.

Sneha-pasair. This sneha-pasa, sneha is there. Sneha means affection. Everyone got affection. The cats and dogs they have got also affection. But the affection is wrongly placed. We are affectionate to the skin, to this body. So this is wrong affection. Real affection is to the soul. That we do not know, we have no information. We are loving our child, that is very good, but not the soul, but the body. If someway or other the child is dead or my father is dead, we cry, "Father has gone." Why father has gone away? The body which you loved, that is lying there. So we do not know whom to love. So if we love actually, let us love the soul. How the soul... Love..., to love means for benefit. That is real love. I love you for your benefit; you love me for my benefit. If I so-called love you for my benefit, that is lust. So in this material world there cannot be love. It is not possible. Because everyone loves, so-called love. He loves his sense gratification. A young boy loves a young woman for his sense gratification, not for her sense gratification. Similarly she also. So in this material, this cheating is going on. I want to satisfy my lusty desires, but it is going on in the name of love. There cannot be any love in this material world. Because love is between spirit and spirit. But if we try to love the Supreme Spirit, Krsna, then we shall understand how our love can be spread in the spiritual world. Samah sarvesu bhutesu mad-bhaktim labhate param.

So we have got everything in writing, in books, in instructions. Our duty is to take them rightly and utilize it properly, advance in Krsna consciousness. Sneha-pasair. Otherwise we shall be on a platform of false love. The platform of false love we know: today one pair is married, but because the love is on the false platform, the next day there is divorce. That is not love. That kind of love has no meaning, that kind of affection has no meaning. It is simply bondage. So try to... Our aim is how to become free from this material bondage and real sneha, real affection, real love should be spread. And that can be done through Krsna consciousness. Otherwise, it is all false. Sneha-pasair drdhair baddham utsaheta. This maya is so strong that we are taking this false thing as reality. It is very difficult to give it up. That is explained by Krsna:

So,

Thank you very much. (end)