770628R1.VRN
770628R1.VRN
770628R1-Vrindavan [33:40 Minutes]
My husband has got more than one wife
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Prabhupada: [break] ...whether I am a family man.
Prabhupada: These Englishmen were very much eager to know the man who is working, whether he's family man, because a family man will never become irresponsible. And this is very, very much visible fact in India. A very poor man, if he's family man, he'll work. It is the family affection. And in economics we have read Marshall's economics. He gives, "The economic development takes place by family affection."
Prabhupada: Hmm. Therefore in India the father-mother takes the responsibility of the son, to make him a family man. Then leave, marry.
Prabhupada: Then he... Father-mother knows that he'll take care of his life automatically. And the boy and the girl are not allowed to mix with second girl, second boy. They are kept strictly. And when they're grown up, they're allowed to mix and the affection becomes firm. These are psychology. It is the psychology of woman that before puberty, if she has got a boy, she loves forever. She'll never be unchaste. So these marriage things are done very psychologically, scientifically, so that they may become happy, and then, in peaceful mind, combine together, good cooperation, they make progress, spiritual. This is the plan, varnasrama-dharma. Very scientific. And Krsna says, "I am that." Whatever Krsna shall give-perfect. Nobody cares. They are suffering.
Prabhupada: And if required, one man can take care of more than one wife, because woman population is greater.
Tamala Krsna: Right. And some boys want to remain brahmacari. So naturally there's fewer men for women.
Prabhupada: And those who are able, you can keep more than one wife. Just see Krsna-sixteen thousand wives. God. That is God. Come on, if there is anyone to compete. Sixteen thousand palaces, sixteen thousands wives; each wife, ten sons. That is God.
Prabhupada: All queens are happy. Whatever she desires from husband... Satyabhama... And Krsna went to the heaven and brought the parijata flower to satisfy. This is husband. Wife has asked for something: "All right."
Prabhupada: Oh, yes. That is husband's duty. She has dedicated her everything to the husband, and husband must see that she is comfortable. This is husband. She must have children, she must have good house, good eating, good clothing, good ornament. Then she is satisfied. They want these things. A woman does not mind very much, "My husband has got more than one wife." If she gets all the comforts of her wishes, some children and some comforts, then she is... She does not grudge, because woman knows man's psychology. A man is not satisfied with one woman. So he must be given that. But she must be chaste. She cannot have more than... Then their relation is all right. If the woman allows husband-"He likes. Let him have more than one woman, but I must be chaste"-this... Our civilization is known as Vedic culture.
Prabhupada: Oh, yes. Not poor man. Ksatriyas.
Prabhupada: No.
Prabhupada: They cannot maintain.
Prabhupada: You can have more than one wife, but maintain them just like wife. She may not have any complaints that "My husband cannot maintain me."
Satadhanya: [entering] All glories to Srila Prabhupada.
Prabhupada: Close that door. How are you?
Satadhanya: Feeling much better. [break]
Prabhupada: ...man and woman happy, and in happiness, in peace of mind, make progress, spiritual life. That is the Vedic civilization. The guide is there, brahmana. The protection is there, ksatriya. The food is there, vaisya. And labor is there, sudra. Combine together, live very happily, peacefully, in the society. You'll find still. The aim is how to realize God. Village to village, you'll find temples.
Prabhupada: In our childhood we have seen. The bhaṅgis, they carry stool, walk in the morning with stool, so neat and clean. And if you go to the house, you cannot understand that this is a bhaṅgi's house. So neat and clean. Their bedding, their utensils, their sitting place. After taking thorough bath, sometimes they are worshiping Deity.
Prabhupada: Still you'll find.
Prabhupada: Bhaṅgi. And business is carrying stool.
Prabhupada: Hmm?
Prabhupada: They have introduced this word, "untouchable."
Prabhupada: Hmm, hmm.
Prabhupada: A famous Vaisnava, Ruhi dasa, he's coming from the bhaṅgis. Everyone is given chance. Socially there may be distinction. Spiritually everyone is given equal chance. Krsna says, mam hi partha vyapasritya ye 'pi syuh papa-yonayah [Bg 9.32]. Papa-yonayah means these bhaṅgis, camaras. And they are not upstart: "Now I have become Vaisnava. Therefore I shall become equal with the brahmana." No. He is satisfied with his own... They are cooking. Oh, you'll like to cook, er, eat. I have seen it.
Prabhupada: Everything equal. Taking bath, cleansing and worshiping, chanting...
Prabhupada: Most of them, they eat, but there are... They do not eat... Not meat. Fish. Meat-eating was introduced by the...
Prabhupada: ...Britishers. Otherwise, nonvegetarian in India means up to fish. [pause] In Gujarat still you'll find, one young girl... You see here that all young girls are carrying water, collecting. In the morning collecting water, cleansing the house, utensils, clothes, taking bath, then cooking, those girls. Their first business. Man's business is to earn money, go to the market, the necessities. Woman's business is take care of household affairs, children, and they have got engagement. And in the presence of father or elder brother or husband, a woman has to earn livelihood, that's a great insult.
Prabhupada: Yes.
Prabhupada: And woman left alone means prostitution.
Prabhupada: As soon as they allow young girl to mix with young boys-finished.
Prabhupada: And in the Western countries it is openly allowed, dating: "Please learn this art." [pause] And if you keep woman chaste, then nice children will come, no hippies.
Prabhupada: That's it. And if nice children are there in the society, they will become responsible men. Then there will be no disturbance in the society. Everything will go on smoothly. Brahmana is acting as brahmana; ksatriya is acting as... They are both... No quarrel. No animosity. Everyone is cooperating with one another. The whole society becomes peaceful. Family becomes peaceful. The man personally becomes peaceful. Then he will be able to make progress. Kutah santi ayuktasya. If you are not peaceful, how you can attain? Or if you are not a devotee, you cannot be peaceful. Or if you are not peaceful, you cannot become devotee. But if you can become devotee, you become peaceful. So I have studied practically. Vedic way of simple life is the best. And unless you adopt Vedic way of simple life, you'll be implicated, material desires. There is no end. The Western civilization, they are after sense gratification, but there is no limit where it will end. The psychology is that everything new. They are changing-"change, change, change." And there is no limit. Where the sense gratification will be satisfied, this much? Krsi-go-raksya-vanijyam vaisya-karma. [Bg 18.44] Kamasya na indriya-pritir labho jiveta yavata [SB. 1.2.10].
Na indriya-pritih. We require sense gratification-we have got senses-but not for the matter of sense. Just to live. Just like sleeping-we require bedding. And why shall I be dissatisfied if there is no good bedstead and no silk, silver and, or, and this, that, so...? Within my means, whatever comforts are available, I make satisfaction. Why shall I make competition?
Prabhupada: Therefore the Bhagavata says, kamasya na indriya-pritir labhah, kamasya labho jiveta yavata. So why they are restless? They do not know the end of life. So what is the end of life? Jivasya tattva-jijnasa na yas ceha karmabhih. The real business is that "What is Brahman?" If your mind is diverted to brahma-jijnasa, then naturally these nonsense things, they will be... Therefore Bhagavata begins, athato brahma-jijnasa, janmady asya yatah, param satyam dhimahi [SB 1.1.1]. The knowledge is there. The process is there. Everything has to be dovetailed. What is that? Dovetailing?
Prabhupada: So the great sages, brahmanas, they were holding meeting in Naimisaranya, discussion how people will be happy.
Prabhupada: Hmm?
Prabhupada: [Transl. Yes.]
Prabhupada: [Hmm.]
Prabhupada: The materialists. They are trying in the society, but in a wrong way. In a wrong way they have taken the hobby of sense gratification. And that will never be satisfied.
Prabhupada: Soul, they do not know what is. There is soul, and there is activity of the soul. Soul is the fundamental basis-these rascals, they do not know. Apasyatam atma-tattvam [SB 2.1.2]. They do not know atma-tattvam. Grhesu grha-medhinam. Srotavyadini rajendra nrnam santi sahasrasah. They are increasing thousands and thousands of demands. Why? Apasyatam atma-tattvam. They do not see. They do not know what is happiness. Therefore their center is grhesu grha-medhinam.
Prabhupada: Bhagavata. You do not read?
Prabhupada: Beginning of the Second Canto. Can you read?
Upendra: What was the verse?
Prabhupada: First of all find out Second Canto. Second Canto, first chapter.
Upendra: Second Canto, first chapter?
Prabhupada: Can you read?
Upendra: Om namo bhagavate vasudevaya: "O my Lord, the all-pervading Personality of Godhead, I offer my respectful obeisances unto You." Next sloka?
"Those persons who are materially engrossed, being blind to the knowledge of ultimate truth, have many things as subject matter for hearing in the human society, O emperor."
"The life span of such envious householders is passed at night either in sleeping or in sex indulgence, and in the daytime either in making money or in maintaining family members."
Prabhupada: So this business.
Satadhanya: They waste all the time.
Prabhupada: Then?
Prabhupada: What is the purport?
Upendra: Purport: "This material world is called the world of death. Every living being, beginning from Brahma, whose duration of life is some thousands of millions of years, down to the microbial germs who live for a few seconds only, is struggling for existence. Therefore, this life is a sort of fight with material nature, which imposes death upon all. In the human form of life, a living being is competent enough to come to an understanding of this great struggle for existence, but being too attached to family members, society, country, etc., he wants to win over the invincible material nature by the aid of bodily strength, children, wife, relatives, etc. Although he is sufficiently experienced in the matter by dint of past experience and previous examples of his deceased predecessors, he does not see that the so-called fighting soldiers like the children, relatives, society members and countrymen are all fallible in the great struggle. One should examine the fact that his father or his father's father has already died, and therefore he himself is therefore also sure to die, and similarly, his children, who are the would-be fathers of their children, will also die in due course. No one will survive in this struggle with material nature. The history of human society definitely proves it, yet the foolish people still suggest that in the future they will be able to live perpetually, with the help of material science. This poor fund of knowledge exhibited by human society is certainly misleading, and it is all due to ignoring the matter of the constitution of the living soul. This material world exists only as a dream, due to our attachment to it. Otherwise, the living soul is always different from the material nature. The great ocean of material nature is tossing with the waves of time, and so so-called living conditions are something like foaming bubbles, which appear before us as bodily self, wife, children, society, countrymen, etc. Due to a lack of knowledge of self, we become victimized by the force of ignorance and thus spoil the valuable energy of human life in a vain search after permanent living conditions, which are impossible in this material world.
"Our friends, relatives and so-called wives and children are not only fallible, but also bewildered by the outward glamor of material existence. As such, they cannot save us. Still we think that we are safe within the orbit of the family, society or country.
"The whole materialistic advancement of human society is like the decoration of a dead body. Everyone is a dead body flapping only for a few days, and yet all the energy of human life is being wasted in the decoration of this dead body. Sukadeva Gosvami is pointing out the duty of the human being after showing the actual position of bewildered human activities. Persons who are devoid of the knowledge of atma-tattva are misguided, but those who are devotees of the Lord and have perfect realization of transcendental knowledge are not bewildered."
Prabhupada: Sometimes I become surprised how I have written this. Although I am the writer, still sometimes I am surprised how these things have come. Such vivid description. Where is such literature throughout the whole world? It is all Krsna's mercy. Every line is perfect.
Prabhupada: It is explained in this way.
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