TEXTS 1113
katham priyaya anukampitayah
sangam rahasyam rucirams ca mantran
suhrtsu tat-sneha-sitah sisunam
kalaksaranam anurakta-cittah
putran smarams ta duhitrr hrdayya
bhratrn svasrr va pitarau ca dinau
grhan manojnoru-paricchadams ca
vrttis ca kulyah pasu-bhrtya-vargan
tyajeta kosas-krd ivehamanah
karmani lobhad avitrpta-kamah
aupasthya-jaihvam bahu-manyamanah
katham virajyeta duranta-mohah
SYNONYMS
kathamhow; priyayahof the dearmost wife; anukampitayahalways affectionate and compassionate; sangamthe association; rahasyamsolitary; ruciranvery pleasing and acceptable; caand; mantraninstructions; suhrtsuto the wife and children; tat-sneha-sitahbeing bound by their affection; sisunamto the small children; kala-aksaranamspeaking in broken language; anurakta-cittaha person whose mind is attracted; putranthe sons; smaranthinking of; tahthem; duhitrhthe daughters (married and staying at the homes of their husbands); hrdayyahalways situated in the core of the heart; bhratrnthe brothers; svasrh vaor the sisters; pitaraufather and mother; caand; dinauwho in old age are mostly invalids; grhanhousehold affairs; manojnavery attractive; urumuch; paricchadanfurniture; caand; vrttihbig sources of income (industry, business); caand; kulyahconnected with the family; pasuof animals (cows, elephants and other household animals); bhrtyaservants and maidservants; vargangroups; tyajetacan give up; kosah-krtthe silkworm; ivalike; ihamanahperforming; karmanidifferent activities; lobhatbecause of insatiable desires; avitrpta-kamahwhose increasing desires are not satisfied; aupasthyapleasure from the genitals; jaihvamand the tongue; bahu-manyamanahconsidering as very important; kathamhow; virajyetais able to give up; duranta-mohahbeing in great illusion.
TRANSLATION
How can a person who is most affectionate to his family, the core of his heart being always filled with their pictures, give up their association? Specifically, a wife is always very kind and sympathetic and always pleases her husband in a solitary place. Who could give up the association of such a dear and affectionate wife? Small children talk in broken language, very pleasing to hear, and their affectionate father always thinks of their sweet words. How could he give up their association? Ones elderly parents and ones sons and daughters are also very dear. A daughter is especially dear to her father, and while living at her husbands house she is always in his mind. Who could give up that association? Aside from this, in household affairs there are many decorated items of household furniture, and there are also animals and servants. Who could give up such comforts? The attached householder is like a silkworm, which weaves a cocoon in which it becomes imprisoned, unable to get out. Simply for the satisfaction of two important sensesthe genitals and the tongueone is bound by material conditions. How can one escape?
PURPORT
In household affairs the first attraction is the beautiful and pleasing wife, who increases household attraction more and more. One enjoys his wife with two prominent sense organs, namely the tongue and the genitals. The wife speaks very sweetly. This is certainly an attraction. Then she prepares very palatable foods to satisfy the tongue, and when the tongue is satisfied one gains strength in the other sense organs, especially the genitals. Thus the wife gives pleasure in sexual intercourse. Household life means sex life (yan maithunadi-grhamedhi-sukham hi tuccham [SB 7.9.45]). This is encouraged by the tongue. Then there are children. A baby gives pleasure by speaking sweet words in broken language, and when the sons and daughters are grown up one becomes involved in their education and marriage. Then there are ones own father and mother to be taken care of, and one also becomes concerned with the social atmosphere and with pleasing his brothers and sisters. A man becomes increasingly entangled in household affairs, so much so that leaving them becomes almost impossible. Thus the household becomes grham andha-kupam, a dark well into which the man has fallen. For such a man to get out is extremely difficult unless he is helped by a strong person, the spiritual master, who helps the fallen person with the strong rope of spiritual instructions. A fallen person should take advantage of this rope, and then the spiritual master, or the Supreme Personality of Godhead, Krsna, will take him out of the dark well.

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