681225WE.LA
Wedding of Syama dasi and Hayagriva

Los Angeles, December 25, 1968
(fire sacrifice)
Prabhupada: (devotees chant responsively:)
om apavitrah pavitro va
sarvavastham gato 'pi va
yah smaret pundarikaksam
sa bahyabhyantarah sucih
sri visnu sri visnu sri visnu
Yes, chant Hare Krsna. (japa) (devotees chant responsively:)
om apavitrah pavitro va
sarvavastham gato 'pi va
yah smaret pundarikaksam
sa bahyabhyantarah sucih
sri visnu sri visnu sri visnu
(japa) That is that... That mantra? Thank you.
Govinda dasi: There's more if you want to give more. I didn't know what you had in mind, so I made two, three of each.
Prabhupada: Three? You have got three? (responsively:)
om apavitrah pavitro va
sarvavastham gato 'pi va
yah smaret pundarikaksam
sa bahyabhyantarah sucih
sri visnu sri visnu sri visnu
Vande 'ham... (chants prayers standard for fire sacrifice) So today's wedding ceremony between Sriman Hayagriva brahmacari and Srimati Syama dasi is practically negotiated by me. I am the marriage maker and I am the negotiator also. How? Because I have started this Krsna consciousness movement in this country to make people happy: happy in this life, happy in next life. This is not temporary sense happiness. In the Bhagavad-gita it is stated that,
"Anyone who comes back to Me," Krsna says, "anyone who goes back to Godhead, then he does not require to come back again to this place, which is full of miseries." Duhkhalayam asasvatam [Bg. 8.15]. Duhkhalayam means it is a place of misery, this material world. And asasvatam. Asasvatam means temporary. Even if I agree, "All right, it is a miserable place. Let me live here perpetually," no. That also will not be allowed. As soon as there will be order, "Please get out," you have no power to remain. Suppose... We are Indian. We are poverty-stricken or we are not very happy materially. You American people, you are very happy. But the nature of law is stringent both for the Indians and Americans equally. So our Krsna consciousness movement is particularly to go back to Godhead, giving up this material world, which is full of miserable life. It is actually full of miseries, but those who are thinking that "I am happy," or "We are happy," they are under illusion, maya. That is called maya. Actually, there is no happiness, because the Supreme Personality of Godhead says it is a place of misery. How you can make it comfortable place?
So this is one side. Another side, that some way or other, since I have begun this movement in this country, generally, the youngsters, they come to me. Maybe to some other reasons. But my disciples up to date, they're all from twenty to thirty years old. Those who are thirty, thirty-two years, they're old. They're amongst the elder generation. But I see the boys and girls, they come to me as friends. But according to our Krsna consciousness movement, we do not allow boys and girls living without any marriage bondage. Illicit sex life we don't allow. We prohibit four things: illicit sex life, intoxication, and meat-eating and gambling. Those who become our student, we prohibit first of all these four things. And if we find some of the girls and some of the boys, they are strictly following, and if they are agreeable, then we arrange for their marriage. So there are many instances of marriage like this. They were living very irresponsibly in the former life. Now they are preaching this Krsna consciousness movement. Some of my students, they are married couples, young men. Six of them have gone to England. They are preaching very nicely. Very nicely. They have attracted the attention of respectable gentlemen like Lord Mountbatten, Lord Sorenson, and the High Commissioner of India, Mr. Dhavan. So they're doing very nicely. So our principle is to make people God conscious; thereby they will be happy. And the method is very simple. Just like we do not deny anything. We give nice wife, we give nice husband, we give nice foodstuff, we give nice philosophy, and at last, we give the nicest thing, Krsna. So our program is very nice. Any gentleman come and discuss with us. We shall prove this is the nicest program at the present moment.
So I am very happy that Professor Howard Wheeler, he is very obedient student. And by God's grace, Krsna's grace, we practically met on the street. You see. When I first started my class in New York, 26 Second Avenue, I was just going out after entering the storefront and this boy met me. He asked me, "Swamiji, you are coming from India?" And I told him, "Yes, my dear boy." So that was our first acquaintance, and I think that is eternal.
Devotees: Jaya!
Prabhupada: That is eternal. Similarly, this girl also met me in San Francisco, and she is very faithfully living with this society. She is very mild. So I have selected, "Syama dasi, you should marry Hayagriva." So they have agreed. And there is no separation. Our relationship is eternal. There is no separation. And this marriage is primarily for advancing Krsna consciousness. Bodily relationship is secondary. That is not a very important thing. Our first engagement is Krsna consciousness. So in this happy ceremony, I have got my heartfelt blessings upon you. You be happy. Our parents are present here. It is a very nice arrangement. And forget... In any circumstances... This material world we have to pass through many circumstances, but sometimes, even it is intolerable, we have to tolerate. So according to Hindu conception of life, even there is some misunderstanding between husband and wife, it is not taken very seriously. Never taken very seriously. But in your country, in the name of liberty and freedom, there are so many things. I do not wish to discuss all those things. But according to Vedic system, husband and wife, united together, there cannot be any separation. Perhaps you have heard the name of Mahatma Gandhi. He was married when he was student, sixteen years old, and his wife was also of the same age. Later on Mahatma Gandhi became a very famous man. So one day there was husband and wife quarrel. So Mahatma Gandhi, he has written in his own biography, he drove away the wife: "You get out from my house." So the wife got out of the house and was crying in the street, "Where shall I go?" And again Mahatma Gandhi went there, "Come on." So even there was quarrel between Mahatma Gandhi and his wife. So this quarrel of husband and wife is not very serious thing. So I'll request you, even there is some misunderstanding, forget it. Don't take it seriously. Simply you concentrate on Krsna consciousness business. You have got nice business now, both of you, conjointly working for editing my Srimad-Bhagavatam. You consult in that business and live peacefully. You are educated, she is also educated. If there is any misunderstanding, don't take it seriously. That is my request. Besides that, I am always at your service, I am always (here) to help you. So this marriage ceremony is very happy occasion. I shall request all friends, relatives, parents, to give their blessings to this nice couple and let us perform.
Now I shall request Mr... What?
Mr. Morris: Morris.
Prabhupada: Morris. So you say that "Howard, this girl was in my charge so long. Now I give you in your charge." You say and...
Mr. Morris: Howard, this child was mine for so long, and now I give her care to you.
Prabhupada: You say that "I take charge of Syama dasi, of you, throughout your whole life." You say.
Hayagriva: I take charge of you, Syama dasi, throughout your whole life.
Prabhupada: And Syama dasi, you say that "I promise I shall serve you to my best capacity throughout my life."
Syama dasi: I promise that I will serve you to my best capacity throughout my life.
Prabhupada: Yes. Now you change your garland. All right. So somebody go and bind this cloth. Yes. Some girl may do that. Yes. (chuckling) Yes. Now chant Hare Krsna. So, it is very nice combination.
Devotee: Kirtana?
Prabhupada: Yes. You can take photograph of this nice picture. Come here in the front. (kirtana) (responsively:)
om apavitrah pavitro va
sarvavastham gato 'pi va
yah smaret pundarikaksam
sa bahyabhyantarah sucih
sri visnu sri visnu sri visnu
vande 'ham... lalita-sri-visakhanvitams ca
(chants fire sacrifice prayers with oblation after each) Now stand up with one banana each.
(repeats twice) Just put like this, slowly. Yes. Thank you. (responsively:) Hare Krsna, Hare Krsna, Krsna Krsna, Hare Hare/ Hare Rama, Hare Rama, Rama Rama, Hare Hare. (repeats twice more responsively) Bow down. Bow down. (responsively:)
nama om visnu-padaya krsna-presthaya bhu-tale
srimate bhaktivedanta svamin iti namine
Jaya. Go on. Be happy. Hare Krsna. So next. Come on. You have no dress? You have no dress? All right.
Devotee: Kirtana, Prabhupada?
Prabhupada: Yes. Go on, kirtana. (Prabhupada gives first line of Gayatri, devotee repeats word for word) Now, you Godbrothers will teach you how to... Who is next? Who is next? Who is next? (kirtana) (some conversation with Prabhupada in background) ...otherwise they will go away. Little, little. Very little, little. There are so many varieties. (kirtana) (end)

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